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Let’s admit it: you stayed in that relationship for years and even after seeing 532 red flags because of both the good parts AND the bad parts.
Let me say that again. The BAD aspects were also part of why you stayed, perhaps because they gave you permission to play a certain role, perhaps the saviour or the struggling tragic martyr, that you are clearly a good person because THEY are the bad person, or whatever it is that the story may be.
What is psychotherapy REALLY about?
The drug abuse, the constant anger, the depression, and panic attacks… all that is the surface. It’s not even the Problem (yes, with a capital P!). These admittedly troubling patterns are the result of months, years, perhaps even decades of trying to come to terms with the Truth.
The game is rigged, but what if you could enjoy it anyway?
The goal is not to have the clearest path, but to actually walk it to the end. And there are certainly ways to get there, regardless of how many obstacles you find in the world. This also over-turns what is perhaps the biggest illusion blocking our way: that we can somehow clear the path once and for all and free ourselves from suffering.
Don’t expect any magic bullets, because there aren’t any.
Life is unfair, and as Chuck Pahlaniuk points out in his glorious book 'Fight Club', "On a long enough time line, the survival rate for everyone drops to zero". If there was ever such a thing as a rule of life, that's probably it.
The cost of being in the public gaze.
It used to be the movies that projected us into the realm of the fantastic, where people live perfect lives and are forever at the peak of their talents and beauty. Now however, even the movies have been upstaged by the vast majority of social media users who seem intent to portray themselves as the stars of their own perfect and meaningful lives. And as we watch each other, this raises in each of us the nagging question: 'why can't my life be as wonderful as theirs?'.